EP101: 10 Tips to Help You Heal After a Major Life Change
Sharing your story isn’t easy. Healing from pain isn’t easy. Last week you witnessed as Drew shared his very vulnerable and powerful story about our divorce, overcoming pain and moving forward after hard times.
I’m Lynn Manning, and now it’s my turn to share with you all, my side of things.
As you can imagine, it’s been an emotional rollercoaster, but my hope is that our stories can provide insight and healing to many. On this episode, I share 10 tips that helped me heal from the pain, release the negative stories about what Drew’s actions meant about me (I’m not good enough, I’m not loveable, I’m not pretty enough, etc.), how I learned to forgive, and how I now live an authentic life.
As you’ll hear in the podcast, I emphasize that you are not your stories. You are not your thoughts. What I didn’t know at the time, but learned later on, is that the most dangerous thing about trauma and hurt are the stories, thoughts, and judgments we create around the trauma and hurt. And when I say stories, I mean we have a situation happen, and we start to decide what that means about us (and others involved), and they aren’t necessarily true.
Here are some of the stories I told myself after I found out about Drew’s affair:
- I am not loveable.
- If I were thinner or prettier, my husband wouldn’t have cheated on me.
- Men aren’t trustworthy.
- All men care about is sex.
It is truly challenging to get out of our head and move on to our heart, purpose, and authenticity. There is so much I can say on this subject, but I’ll simply tell you this: You are not your stories. You are worthy. You are loveable.
My hope is that by sharing the profound lessons and tools I’ve learned, it will help someone listening. Whether you’ve experienced exactly what I have, or if you’ve been divorced, or are in the process of one or not, we have all experienced pain. We have all experienced some form of loss. We have all experienced being a “victim” and getting hurt. We have all been in circumstances where we have an opportunity to forgive someone. That is really the main focus of this episode.
Lastly, after listening, I hope you’ll take with you the realization that living in harmony with who we truly are, isn’t just forcing ourselves to repeat positive thoughts. It really means being and doing things that make us happy, things that arouse our passion and bring out the best in us, things that make us feel good- and it especially means loving ourselves unconditionally.
Thank you for listening.
Key Takeaways:[00:14] Why Lynn Manning is hosting this podcast. [04:04] Putting on a happy face while in the midst of heartbreak. [08:34] When Lynn knew it was finally time to split from Drew. [11:48] Lynn shares 10 tips that helped her heal. [27:27] People are doing the best they can. [36:39] There is no perfect road map for healing. [38:32] Lynn shares a personal post about getting through the darkness.
Mentioned in This Episode:
Lynn’s Love Yourself To Greater Health Program. A 30-day complete self-love & health program to teach you the necessary tools to transform your life, and step into the version of you that is full of health, wealth, happiness, and love. You will receive a collection of health and self-love habits that will activate your self-love muscles and over time, help shift your mindset into one that is positive, productive, and conducive to creating a life you love.
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